It's amazing how often I am approached by strangers when we are out and about and have this conversation - or something similar:
Random person -"Wow! all boys!?"
Me - "yep"
Random person - "No girls?"
Me - "Uh, yea" Hello!?!
Random person - "are you gonna try for a girl?"
The funny thing about that statement is that upon creating a new life, you don't really have any choice to the outcome. I never have gotten pregnant just to "try" for a certain gender, only in hopes of a healthy baby. And I don't see why people seem to think you are incomplete if there are no girls in your family. I always felt this great pressure from everyone around me to add some female hormones to the mix, like I would let them all down if I somehow failed. HEY WORLD! No, I don't have a girl and I'm ok with it!
Now I admit that over the years, through each pregnancy there was this hope inside me that I would have a daughter, I drooled over ruffles and lace and dreamed of curly hair and tights. There was a certain amount of disappointment after each ultrasound showed another male would join our family. But I had this moment in the hospital after Jaxon was born when I became completely satisfied with having all boys and I haven't looked back since. I am truly, sincerely happy with my family of boys and I really wouldn't have it any other way. I am happy to buy the ruffles and bows for everyone else out there who has a little girl but I am content with my life of jeans and sneakers.
4 comments:
Thank you so much for this. It's been a particularly rough day with my boys and I found myself wishing just a tiny bit that this third baby was a girl instead. Thank you for helping me remember that even though it's hard sometimes, I wouldn't trade my three boys for anything in the world.
I get people saying, So you finally got your girl. And I think, I like my boys just fine thank you. I think people just aren't very good at realizing what they are actually saying.
You my friend are awesome!! I also wouldn't trade my boys. :) Your boys are very blessed to have an amazing mom and dad. Love and miss you guys!
I agree! Boys are awesome! I also get the comment all the time - Oh you're finally getting your girl. Because I get the comment so often, I just nod and say how excited we are, but often I'll say, you know we would have been just as happy having another boy! Now people are telling me I need to have another one so she can have a sister. Hello! People sometimes say "interesting" things. I couldn't be happier with my boys!
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